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Do Your Survival Skills Still Work?

Wednesday, May 17th, 2017

Recently I was talking with a long-time friend about some changes we had each made in our lives, both personally and professionally. During the conversation I noted that I was giving up some of my survival skills. You know, the ones that have been in place forever and that can operate on auto-pilot, whether you need them or not.

You might wonder what I mean by “survival skills.” I am referring to a way of being that has served you in the past that may no longer be serving you. Examples might be perfectionism, procrastination, shying away from confrontation, or not tooting your own horn.  

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Focus on the Three S’s in Success

Wednesday, April 26th, 2017
You might know that I’m a word person. I love good writing, I worked as a journalist, and I love word games. I looked at the word “success” recently and thought about what the parts meant. Success has 3 S’s, and I decided that the keys to success are Self, Systems and Support.

How do you define success? Webster’s defines it as a favorable or desired outcome or the attainment of wealth, favor or eminence. The bottom line is that success relates to achieving goals. You set the goals and you determine whether or not you are successful. Here are some tips to help with your journey toward success.

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toot that horn!

Wednesday, February 19th, 2014

small__12525802253Do you toot your own horn? Or are you like many women – yes, it’s mostly women – who are reluctant to talk about their successes and talents? You probably don’t have any problem talking about the success of your loved ones. Why is it that we have that problem with ourselves?

This came up in a discussion with a group of ICAP members lately. One of these women felt uncomfortable about promoting herself. And she was not alone. Plenty of others shared their discomfort about promoting themselves, whether that’s in person, on the blog, Facebook or Twitter. It was okay to talk about others and share their successes, but we downplay our own. Why? I think it is because you are not ready to step into your own power.

How do you get beyond this? Here are a few ideas:

  1. Pay attention to when you shy away from sharing your gifts or minimizing your talents in public, i.e., with those who don’t know you. Awareness is the first step to changing.
  2. Change your internal message about what you are doing. You have gifts that others don’t have. And, I know that you want to share those gifts. That is why you started your quilt or fiber arts business. You need to share your successes so others can learn about you so that you are able to serve them. It is really about providing a service to your customers, and you cannot do that if you hide your talents.
  3. Start to put yourself – and your brand – out there in small ways. Take 30 minutes a day and look for ways to contribute. This could be by commenting on someone’s blog, writing your own blog post, sharing something on Twitter or your Facebook Fan page, pinning to your Pinterest board. It is about taking that first step.

It gets easier as you go along, and the more people know about you, the more people you can serve with your unique talents.

I am sure you have read the following quote from Marianne Williamson. I love this quote and it is pertinent to this discussion:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

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The S’s in Success

Wednesday, August 24th, 2011
You might know that I’m a word person. I love good writing, and I love word games. I looked at the word “success” recently and thought about what the parts meant. Success has 3 S’s, and I decided that the keys to success are Self, Systems and Support. I’m looking at the first S this week: Self.

How do you define success? Webster’s defines it as a favorable or desired outcome or the attainment of wealth, favor or eminence. The bottom line is that success relates to goals. You set the goals and you determine whether or not you are successful. Here are some tips to help with your journey toward success:

1. Develop your personal, specific definition about success. If you don’t know what success means to you, how can you work towards it? In creating your definition, consider that you want it be something within your control, not that of other people. You want to be able to measure it so you can hold yourself accountable on a regular basis. You also want it to mesh with your personal values and principles. Remember, it’s your goal not someone else’s.

2. Take action every day toward your goals. You don’t have to know all the steps needed, i.e., how to get to the finish line. You just need to take the next step. The other steps will show themselves. You have to be ready to step out in faith.

3. Eliminate excuses. The coach I work with has a “no excuses” policy. I hear this as I work. I ask myself if I’m making excuses for not getting something done. Do I want the goal or the excuse? I strive to work in an “excuse-free” environment. This has a positive effect on my day and its outcome.

4. Part of self includes self-development. I think life-long learning and self-improvement are key. Look for ways you can build your skills, whether that is in knowledge of your specific area or learning how to get out of your own way.

5. Be open to the opportunities in front of you. Opportunities exist all around you. Don’t just stick with the status quo.

6. Take personal responsibility for everything. I think this is the real key for the “Self” S in Success.

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