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When to Say No

Wednesday, August 21st, 2019

Are you a “yes” person?

I know I used to say yes to lots of opportunities. 

Some of them moved the needle in my business; some did not.

Some I said yes to because the opportunities were cool. I didn’t want to miss out on cool. 

If I look back I probably should have said no more often or at least sooner than I did.

If you really think about it, every time you do say yes to something you are saying no to something else.

Good things come to you when you learn to say no. Here are some ways to know when to say no.

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Train Tracks and Getting Things Done

Wednesday, June 13th, 2018


One day recently I was stopped at a railroad bridge and started thinking about what we learned as kids about crossing the train tracks. Stop, look, and listen. Do you remember that?

The next morning I looked at the mountain of work on my desk – as well as those bright, shiny objects across the room – and wondered where I should start. I picked up the task on the top and started to work.

Shortly I became distracted and found myself on the way to the kitchen for another cup of tea.

Back to my desk. What was I working on?

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Are you just a …?

Wednesday, March 15th, 2017

A couple years ago, I was at a gallery opening with some creative women, and they were each sharing what they did. After hearing one woman say she was a mixed-media artist and another say she was a photograph, the third said, “I’m just a longarm quilter.”

Why did this person’s passion become a “just a?” And why did she think she was “less than”?

If you grew up in the 60s with the women’s liberation movement, you might remember hearing people say “just a housewife.” I can remember thinking I would never be know as “just a.” In actuality, being a housewife is probably the hardest job around, raising healthy, happy and productive kids. It’s definitely not “just a.”

Back to the artists I met. I know that this longarm quilter is not the only one who says “just a” when someone asks what she does.  Maybe she has second thoughts about the phrase, and I hope she does. Maybe she doesn’t.

When I started to reflect on what this woman said, I wondered where she placed her value.

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Book Review: Mindset

Sunday, October 12th, 2014


Carol S. Dweck, PhD
Ballantine Books; $16


I read this book, subtitled The Psychology of Success, earlier this summer at the recommendation of a friend. I have come to believe more so over time that our mindset, not our knowledge or how hard we work, is really the key to our success. For more than 20 years the author, a world-renowned Stanford University psychologist,  has studied mindset. In this book, she discusses two different mindsets: the fixed mindset, which “creates an urgency to prove yourself over and over,” and the growth mindset, which is “based on the belief that your basic qualities are things you can cultivate through your efforts.” The growth mindset allows for growth as we stretch and challenge ourselves. What is key for all of us is that our mindset is not fixed and we can learn to use a growth mindset to become successful and happy. What I found fascinating was the look at leaders in both sports and business who had fixed or growth mindsets, e.g., Jeffrey Skilling of Enron contrasted with Jack Welch of General Electric or Bobby Knight contrasted with John Wooden, both legendary basketball coaches. Dweck includes help for looking at the world in a new way to change to a growth mindset. She also includes a graphic by Nigel Holmes to remind yourself of the differences between the fixed and growth mindset to help you make decisions that lead to a future you decide.


You can look for the book at your favorite quilt shop or book retailer. Here’s a link to Amazon if you would like to learn more about the book.


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